My Response

Thank you to all the ladies who gave me advice. It is a nice reminder to hear that I should take the high road etc when I am in the middle of a rage attack.

I gave it some time. Then I called my mom. I wanted to know what my sister's intentions were. My mom made it clear that her intentions were to just get involved in the party. I tried my best to hold back, but I cried and raised my voice with my mom. I told her that I was not mad at her, but I was so hurt by the fact that I received a business proposal after being ignored for almost 4 years. My mom restated the fact that she just wanted a small party nothing fancy. She had no ideas about my sister's grand plans.

I told my mom that I wanted to help and that I would do the invites on my own. I would also send my sister some photos for the video as she requested, but that was it and I was not going to work with her on this. We could each do our part with my mom at the lead.

Then I reread my sister's email. It was an entire page about details, details, details, like should we put a photo on the cake? what kind of cake? etc. Trivia game, family photo collage, favors etc OMG My parents are very simple folk and would be happy with a backyard BBQ. So all of this is so crazy.

Then she had a line in there about if she does the video then we can both have a creative project. Really??? I don't feel that sending out invites is all that creative. I was just going to send something out and now I am thinking that I have to make something fancy?? Most people these days get lazy and just send out evites, so I thought sending out cards was good enough.

After rereading her email it reminded me that she is a neurotic control freak. She wants to take over this whole thing and make it a major drama. She asked me a million questions.

So I thought and thought. Then I wrote the following. Short and to the point.

Hi ________,

I think it's great that you want to honor dad by doing all this stuff. Thanks for asking for my input on the video. I'll be happy to send photos. When I get the final info from mom, I'll be sending the invitations out. I spoke to mom today, so it's all set.

Simone