We decided to turn down a profile showing for case number 4. It was a hard decision, but it is important that DH and I agree on the case and have no regrets. The bm was very young, and wanted a lot of openness and contact through texting and phone calls. She also wanted us to have contact with the other family that she placed a child with last December. I am fine with visits bc you know how many you need to have for the year. I can commit to that. What this bm wanted was very ambiguous and it sounded like she wanted to be friends and just chat all the time. I was not comfortable with that situation.
We are still waiting to hear from case #3. This was the one where we are one of two couples and we are waiting to interview. Her due date is in three days, on Dec 30. I am trying really hard to be patient, but it is tough since you are not sure if she will continue with the adoption plan or not. That is the first hurdle, then we have to worry about whether or not she will pick us. We have to live our lives but we are aware that we are on call.
Everyone has been so excited for us, it is nice to have this momentum of hope around me. I know that this may not be the final case for us, but we are getting very close. We don't have anything baby related in our house. We usually avoid the baby isle. We know that the car seat is the one thing we have to have, so I wanted to buy it now, but dh was not ready. I took DH to the store the other day to look at car seats. This was a huge step for us. My plan is to keep exposing him to the car seats every time we go to a store that has them.
For Christmas I gave DH The Baby Owner's Manual. He likes to read and this book seemed like it was geared towards men. I thought the concept was clever since you always hear people saying that babies don't come with a manual. I hoped that this would be a fun way for him to start getting comfortable and excited about this actually happening.
Fingers crossed something will work out soon. It wouldn't hurt to have a box of new born diapers and some bottles with different nipples tucked away someplace to have on hand. We adopted from China so had a year to prepare!
ReplyDeleteLove the manual! You are smart about BM #4. We are having issues with our BM that wants to be family and have lots of contact with us. We are not comfortable with that and are trying to reach an agreement but it is hard.
ReplyDeleteWhat an exciting roller coaster of emotion! Pray for you and your DH during this time.
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DeleteMy brother actually gave us that book a long, long time ago. I wonder if we still have it tucked away somewhere. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers as you patiently wait (or anxiously wait).
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