Wednesday, March 26, 2014

First Interview

We made our appointment for the first interview of the home study, three weeks ago. At first I was fine, mostly bc it was so far away. Then a few days ago my dh started to freak out about it. We had a few arguments due to the stress of the whole thing.

Today was the day. The apt was at 9:00 so it gave us some time to prepare. I asked him what shirt he was wearing and he said "just a work shirt" I got upset bc this is important and I wanted to make a good impression on the social worker. I started to freak out that he was going to mess this up due to his lack of effort. We got into a fight. Tears were shed.

When we get there I was glad to find out that it was a group interview. We sat together on a couch, so it was comfortable. She starts out by asking us if were are nervous...........then I started to cry. Then she asked me about my infertility and I cried some more. She was understanding and said that she sees many couples who come from pain like us.

She asked us each separate questions, but we were able to chime in and help each other out. Overall I think we did ok. She was very nice. She started a smaller agency years ago after she adopted her son. Later on she merged with Bethany. This was my first time meeting her. I felt very comfortable with her. We were in there for two hours. She basically asked us the same questions that we had on our forms. Some of the questions she would ask a follow up question and others were basic. I cried a little off and on. It is hard to stop once you start.

The next time we go in for interviews it has to be separate bc state law requires it that way. She said that she gets surprised all the time by things that people say when they are away from their spouse.

After the appointment we went out to lunch. Then my dh had to go back to work. I am home for the rest of the day. We are both exhausted from the stress leading up to this day and all of the emotional stuff we explored today.

Monday, March 10, 2014

The Microwave

The other day the microwave broke. It started to make weird noises and then I noticed that it did not heat up my food. I had that micro for about 14 years. It had a good life. I bought that when I moved up here and had my apartment. Now that we have a house with a tiny galley kitchen we thought it might be time to get a micro that goes above the range.

It seemed like a simple space saving idea. We would get rid of that old nasty hood and replace with with a micro that has a fan/light under it. Sounded really simple. I measured and noticed that the space that it would go in was about 30 by 12. This is smaller than our current micro, so I just thought that I would get a smaller micro.

I get to the store and most micros are all the same size 30 by 16. So that means the micro would hang down below the cabinets. Also you need a minimum of 30 inches from the range to the bottom so you don't melt the micro.

At this point I just want to forget this whole plan and just get the usual counter micro. DH is already sold on the idea of saving space by regaining counter space. We get home and he says that it is fine. I have a freak out that the micro will be so low that I will get claustrophobic.

He starts to play with moving the cabinet up. He removes the hood which is circa 1975 and original to the house. The wires were hard wired into the hood. I reminded him to watch out for live wires but he does not listen. He starts to pull the wires out from the hood and they hit the metal and make a loud popping sound and flames start shooting out.

At this point I am screaming bc I am worried that DH got electrocuted or burned. He was ok. That is when he listened to me about shutting off the power. He gets the hood off and realizes that he needs help. My friend's dh is going to come over later in the week to help swap cabinets. There is a shorter one over the fridge that would fit in that spot so the top of the cabinets will be flush.

I just wanted a microwave and now I have a hole in the wall where wires are sticking out. I have to wait for the electrician to make an outlet, a friend to move the cabinets, and then they will deliver and install the micro.

I am hopeful that this will all be worth it when I have more space. Right now I have my doubts bc it seems like this keeps getting more and more involved. My first interview is not for another 16 days. This better get fixed bc I cannot have a social worker come to my house with wires sticking out of the wall.

Wednesday, March 5, 2014

Moving on to Home Study

Good News!

The social worker emailed me last night to say that our state application was approved so now we are moving on to the home study. We start with an interview in their office. She said it was going to be an hour.  ergh so that made me nervous. Can anyone who has been through this give me some  info on what they want to talk about?

Her first opening was the last week of March.  I am fine with waiting bc I need to relax from the stress of getting all those papers done. I am very happy to move forward.